For some people, a funeral conjures up a picture of mourners dressed head to toe in black, while somber organ music plays. But that’s not for everyone. In recent years, more and more people are seeking to break from tradition and opt for a colorful celebration of life.
A good funeral home can help you arrange all the elements to make your loved one’s life celebration unique.
What is a celebration of life?
Although many people still prefer the somber dignity of a traditional funeral, a celebration of life is an alternative way of saying goodbye to a loved one that places the emphasis on celebrating happy memories. It’s a way of reflecting who they were in life and how they will live on, in people’s hearts and minds.
For some people who are close to the end of their lives, it’s a comfort to talk with loved ones about a ‘happy’ funeral and life celebration that will include wonderful memories and smiles, as well as tears.
If the person who has died was not of a religious faith with its own funeral traditions, a celebration of life may be an appropriate way to reflect their very own life philosophies or unique kind of spirituality.
An alternative funeral is the chance to give many people a chance to be involved and express how important someone was to them.
What do you do at a celebration of life?
So long as it’s legal, it’s up to you. If you’re the person organizing a celebration of life funeral, you’ll need to think about the elements that would have mattered most to them. It’s also considerate to be mindful of the wishes of other members of the family – a funeral is not just a farewell, but an important first step in the grieving process.
Would your loved one have wanted people to sing, or dance, hit the waves on a surfboard or have a cookout and raise a glass to them? Be sure to include details ahead of time, so that other people know what to expect, wear or bring.
A celebration of life could include an alternative kind of funeral transport, from a monster truck hearse to a specially-modified motorcycle leading the cortege. Or you may like the idea of a casket that’s personalized with family photos, a cartoon character or lyrics from their favorite band.
If you are a mourner or guest, then try your best to go with the flow. An important part of every funeral, is how much it matters to the bereaved.
1. Locations for a celebration of life
When you’re organizing a celebration of life, you can take advantage of a location provided by your funeral home, or include other venues as part of the day. It could be that, after you’ve arranged for the burial or cremation itself, you’d prefer the celebration of life ceremony itself to be in a place of special significance.
A celebration of life funeral might take place after someone has been cremated and include the committal or dispersal of their ashes. If your loved one was a passionate gardener for instance, a park or garden might be fitting for their celebration of life party, where you could arrange for mourners to release butterflies.
You can also host a life celebration at your own home or in the local community hall. Just like any social gathering, as long as there is enough space to host the people you’ve invited, a celebration of life can be held almost anywhere.
2. Conducting a celebration of life
A celebration of life may be a more informal kind of funeral, but you’ll need someone officiate at the service. For this, you’ll need a celebrant to lead the proceedings and introduce the other people taking part in the funeral ceremony. For non-religious celebrations of life, there are many civil celebrants who can help you create an order of service that reflects your loved one’s life and interests. Others specialise in humanist philosophies, while a pastor or religious minister may able to advise on the steps you can take to include elements of faith within a celebration of life. A member of the family could even officiate.
3.Spreading the word about a celebration of life
It’s helpful to include details of the celebration of life funeral in your loved one’s obituary. While it’s unusual to send out invitations to traditional funerals, you can invite people to a celebration of life. Some people post the event details on social media.
Include details about any dress code or particular color you’d like for people to wear, any special requests and the kind of atmosphere you are hoping to create to remember this special person by.
4. Setting the order of service
The order of service depends entirely on the elements you’d like to include at the celebration of life. Like a traditional funeral, you may want to include music and singing, poetry and speeches about the person who has died. An alternative funeral could be an opportunity to play their favorite music, or for people to dance. It might be centered around a cavalcade of motorbikes doing a ‘last blast’ in their honor, the release of doves, or even a Viking-style ceremony. If you have distant relatives who are unable to make the service, why not live stream the celebrations.
5. Who will speak at the life celebration?
Just like any funeral, it’s a good idea to include several speakers at the celebration of life. A more informal funeral venue could mean there are fewer time limits, giving more people the opportunity to share things they’d like to say. It’s good to include a eulogy which expresses their best qualities, highlights of their life story and how much they will be missed. Favorite poems, songs and even film quotes can add a personal touch to an alternative funeral service. Some people choose to have an ‘open mic’ for any guests to stand up and share a memory of the person who has died.
Celebration of life party ideas
Plant a memorial tree: A tree-planting ceremony is an enduring way to memorialize a loved one by and also benefits the environment. A memorial tree provides a physical location for family and friends to visit a loved one in years to come.
Have a cook out: If your loved one was an easy-going character who enjoyed a social gathering with good food and drink, a barbeque may be an ideal tribute to commemorate their life. It’s a fitting way to gather friends and family to remember happy memories.
Dove release: A dove release can be a peaceful and healing tribute to say a final farewell to a loved one and your funeral director can help you arrange for this. Some people choose release butterflies as a beautiful farewell.
Pick a theme: A viking-style funeral could be a spectacular send off, while Star Wars has influenced the life celebrations of a number of fans. A celebration of life could also be based around singing and music, or a hobby or interest that they loved in life.
Memory cards: Ask your celebration of life guests to write their favorite memory of the person who died on a note card. These cards can then be kept in a memory box for future generations of the family to read.
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